Conditioned to Love Bad Boys?

Question: Does anyone else ever feel like they're trained or "conditioned" to love bad boys from an early age? Think about all of the books that you've read recently. How many featured bad boys as the love interest or hero, and how many got the girl in the end? Was their even a "good guy" present? Or did the bad boy take all the glory?

Did he sweep the heroine off of her feet, tell her his sob story about his broken home and how his life sucks? Did she fall for it? Did you fall for it too? I'm going to profess it right here and now: I'm pretty much in love with the bad boy trope. Piercings, tattoos, motorcycles, reckless behavior? I'm in.

So it's made me wonder... have we been conditioned to love things like that? Because I've noticed that something like 98% of book bloggers suffer from this affliction, while the other 2% either doesn't care or rolls it's eyes at us. But we can't help it. We swoon over the silliest things. Pressing people against walls? *swoon* Driving dangerously so the girl will hold tighter to you? *swoon*

We fall for the most abusive relationships. The ones where you know that you shouldn't love this couple together, they're only bad for each other, but you're totally rooting for them. We're totally and completely conditioned, and it doesn't help that so many books these days are making abusive relationships okay.

Edward? He stalked Bella, watched her sleep, craved her blood, and got her knocked up & bruised within a week of their marriage. Fail.

Jacob? Also after Bella, but more primal about it. He falls in love with Bella's whatever aged daughter, and is kind of creepy after that, because she's so young. It's gross.

Patch? (Totally like him, sadly.) He convinced Nora that he was killing her on a roller coaster, stalked her, Was plotting to do something terrible to her, and he also pushed her up against every surface available and wouldn't really let her say no.

I hear that Jude from Crash is a doozy, and there are probably several other characters that could be mentioned as being lusted after yet bad choices. I feel like, maybe as women, we have this idea that men should be rough and possessive. What does that say for all of our futures, and for the futures of children, if we all lust after men who are on the road to abusive-ness?

I will freely admit that I like it in books when men/boys are possessive, and ride motorcycles, are overly tatted, or have a face full of piercings. That's no problem for me. But is there something that makes us love these tropes? I tend to fall for them all, no matter how bad they are, or what they do. Sometimes I draw the line, because stalking is creepy... but there are some guys that I still love who are totally stalkers. What does that say about me? Am I a bad person?

What do you think? Is it bad for us to love these seemingly uncaring, bad guys? Do you fall for them as well?